tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3282914367983132683.post2340546463977870752..comments2023-12-30T07:04:30.897-05:00Comments on <b>Life at DrTom's</b>: The stress that university students endurelifeatdrtomshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07303447463058689011noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3282914367983132683.post-44731951884919110552010-11-12T07:43:16.245-05:002010-11-12T07:43:16.245-05:00Thanks Carola. No recent posts here; working on f...Thanks Carola. No recent posts here; working on finishing a book.lifeatdrtomshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07303447463058689011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3282914367983132683.post-57204774471939116952010-11-11T21:18:31.971-05:002010-11-11T21:18:31.971-05:00Here it is November 11 (no recent posts, Tom?) and...Here it is November 11 (no recent posts, Tom?) and I wanted to say to Tom and any other veterans who read your blog, thank you for your service.Carolanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3282914367983132683.post-64927778425482784342010-11-01T09:51:41.591-04:002010-11-01T09:51:41.591-04:00Ouch, that complicates thingsOuch, that complicates thingsDavid of Quillcardshttp://quillcards.com/blog/index.php/2010/10/02/tea-stories-from-the-east-to-the-west/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3282914367983132683.post-10922449010322120952010-10-28T07:30:29.199-04:002010-10-28T07:30:29.199-04:00David, as I remember, that decision was different ...David, as I remember, that decision was different for each professor. There was no standardized system for the university as a whole.lifeatdrtomshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07303447463058689011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3282914367983132683.post-51113915104210763022010-10-27T18:37:23.507-04:002010-10-27T18:37:23.507-04:00Did your school mark students to a standard or did...Did your school mark students to a standard or did it pass a certain percentage irrespective of the fact that no one got, say, more than 10% of the questions wrong?<br /><br />I ask because, if it was the former then you would expect that students being chased by ravening wolves (being drafted to Vietnam) would apply themselves a tiny bit more and there would be more passes in those years. Was that the case?David of Quillcardshttp://quillcards.com/blog/index.php/2010/10/02/tea-stories-from-the-east-to-the-west/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3282914367983132683.post-43544229333208751942010-10-25T06:59:46.948-04:002010-10-25T06:59:46.948-04:00Thanks Ellen. Lady S: you were probably too tired...Thanks Ellen. Lady S: you were probably too tired to remember.lifeatdrtomshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07303447463058689011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3282914367983132683.post-62306499195059643152010-10-23T20:04:15.319-04:002010-10-23T20:04:15.319-04:00Heeeyyy, I don't remember this story! lol It w...Heeeyyy, I don't remember this story! lol It would've gotten me through at least 2 weeks of school before falling back into my state of extreme depression. Or maybe it was because of my state that I dont remember it. I dunno. The innermost of me hated Cornell. I am still happy to be gone... although, I do miss the gorges dearly. :/Shahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08130290272105256374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3282914367983132683.post-61208458696408155322010-10-23T01:03:45.718-04:002010-10-23T01:03:45.718-04:00Another great, great post! I truly get a lot out o...Another great, great post! I truly get a lot out of your posts. Thank you so much for sharing.<br /><br />EllenEllenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03219083061922187667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3282914367983132683.post-33987742231309298402010-10-22T06:55:39.728-04:002010-10-22T06:55:39.728-04:00Darcy: I did not realize I was practicing CBT. Do...Darcy: I did not realize I was practicing CBT. Do I need a license to do that?lifeatdrtomshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07303447463058689011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3282914367983132683.post-6840653436038800912010-10-18T17:53:30.814-04:002010-10-18T17:53:30.814-04:00I appreciate the cooler weather as I say "I c...I appreciate the cooler weather as I say "I can always put on more clothes, but when it is too hot, I can't take off my skin". I am heat sensitive (not to mention well-insulated) and it is a relief to be leaving the 80 and 90 degree temperatures for a few months. I am sleeping a lot better and longer too, so is this hibernation?<br />Also, everyone is feeling monetary stress in one form or another, so getting good rest helps you deal with the necessities in a clearer frame of mind, student or not.ajgeiger38noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3282914367983132683.post-28223551940631816402010-10-18T16:56:47.336-04:002010-10-18T16:56:47.336-04:00Its been awhile since I've been in school but ...Its been awhile since I've been in school but I do remember burning the candle from both ends. Never got sick like some of you did...but I did sleep a lot after exams to catch up. I always remembered you telling me "at least your not going to Vietnam if you fail". Always will stick with me.Ryanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02236053610397256987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3282914367983132683.post-7254533187283302912010-10-18T05:59:03.063-04:002010-10-18T05:59:03.063-04:00Emily: thanks for writing your comment. Yes, you ...Emily: thanks for writing your comment. Yes, you were the Emily to whom the student referred. I can't remember giving you the advice yo quoted, but it sounds like something I would say.lifeatdrtomshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07303447463058689011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3282914367983132683.post-64727268317761085542010-10-18T05:57:38.014-04:002010-10-18T05:57:38.014-04:00Farmer: there is something to be said for that app...Farmer: there is something to be said for that approach. Different strokes for different folks, and all that.lifeatdrtomshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07303447463058689011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3282914367983132683.post-126598855587213662010-10-18T01:26:21.298-04:002010-10-18T01:26:21.298-04:00Being a senior that had shingles (yeah, I was a bi...Being a senior that had shingles (yeah, I was a bit stressed, what can I say), I would have to empathize with the student who wrote the email (and I think I was the Emily referenced in that email...right?) on MANY occassions throughout my career at Cornell. It was surely a pressure cooker, but I have to say, that stress really does teach you a lot, and it has trained me well for future (more stressful) situation.<br /><br />I think one really important point that you made was in the last paragraph - sometimes there is a time and place for things, and the timing has to be right. There are a lot of experience that one learns from in life, and most of them don't involve a large textbook opened in front of you. <br /><br />You know, Dr. Tom, you said something to me that really has stuck with me ever since you said it. I can't remember the exact time nor place you stated this simple, yet epic, statement, but all I know is that I was royally stressed out from many Cornell courses. You said, "Enjoy life. It's all we've got." And whenever I get stressed, I remember what you said to me and think big picture. Life is good.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3282914367983132683.post-91745018849358779812010-10-17T19:16:54.109-04:002010-10-17T19:16:54.109-04:00It makes me glad that I went to a pass/fail art sc...It makes me glad that I went to a pass/fail art school with a clothing optional swimming pool and jacuzzi in southern California. Whew. I could have found myself in a lot of trouble...Farmer markhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01693273972682796501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3282914367983132683.post-91888118693673682132010-10-17T16:23:26.058-04:002010-10-17T16:23:26.058-04:00You sound exactly like the therapist I saw when I ...You sound exactly like the therapist I saw when I went to Duke for nursing school. (as I was again re-living the stress of Cornell!) A little CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) can go a long way for all of us! ...thanks for the reminder :-)Darcy Kinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14812017612318431377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3282914367983132683.post-31736075208609342492010-10-17T16:17:27.302-04:002010-10-17T16:17:27.302-04:00But you remember everything, Franny. When I am se...But you remember everything, Franny. When I am senile and have totally lost my mind, I plan on you reminding me of who I was.lifeatdrtomshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07303447463058689011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3282914367983132683.post-65356526896876662422010-10-17T15:33:59.867-04:002010-10-17T15:33:59.867-04:00Whenever I get a grade back in a class I always he...Whenever I get a grade back in a class I always hear (or say to other people) you saying, "Remember, it could be worse... you could be going to Vietnam." I thought that was hilarious, but since I had pneumonia (having fallen prey to exactly what you're talking about) the laugh came out more like a bark.Frannynoreply@blogger.com